Avoidance is a common way of dealing with fear and anxiety. We do it because we rather not feel the discomfort that certain situation give us, or because we do not know how to handle that discomfort.

While it is normal to avoid, it is not helpful in the long run. Here is why:

At a first glance, avoidance seems helpful because it make us feel immediately better. However, avoidance does not allow us the opportunity to disproof the limiting beliefs that we hold about that situation or person and we never get to gather evidence against our fear. 

Anxiety and fear (much like a bully) need to be challenged in order for them to become friendly.

The longer you avoid “the thing” that makes you uncomfortable, the longer you will limit your life. Discomfort is where growth happens.

Easier said than done. Trust me, I know it.

In my 20s, I found myself frequently seeking reassurance from doctors, trying to confirm that I wasn’t facing a serious health issue. This concern significantly limited my experiences; I avoided anything that seemed remotely risky to my health. But then, halfway through that decade, I made a pivotal decision to get help for that health anxiety. Prior to this change, discussions about illness were major triggers for me. I had restricted my social interactions to only those I was certain were healthy, and I even avoided television, movies, and similar media.

 

The discomfort of getting help is far less than the discomfort of living life with limiting beliefs that paralyze you with fear.

How to stop avoiding?

The key to stop avoidance is to face what you’re avoiding and THAT my friend, is so much easier to do in the company of an equipped coach. So, if you’re ready to choose a different hard today, let’s book a free consult call, and get you on the other side of fear…..a.k.a freedom.

XO, Olga