Category: <span>Happiness</span>

When Sh*t Hits the Fan

I want to share with you three of the steps I teach inside Reset your Mindset that can be incredibly helpful to anyone in any situation, but particularly helpful to use when things go wrong.  Enjoy them!

Feel the damn feeling

When 💩 hits the fan, there will be emotions inside your body. Tension, discomfort, whatever “heavy” is for you. Our obvious tendency is to avoid the feeling because it sucks. However, delaying, ignoring or, avoiding our feelings only make them stay longer. It takes 2 minutes to feel a feeling. That is it. When you give yourself those two minutes, you process and open new space. So, take the two minutes and free yourself from the heavy emotion.

Leaning Towards Discomfort

After over 16 years of intimately working with people and their emotions, I’ve come to realize that the fear of discomfort is a significant barrier to achieving success, regardless of how one defines it.

Consider one of your current aspirations, goals, or dreams…

Now, ask yourself: What’s holding me back?

Did the fear of discomfort come to mind? (Fear of feeling anxious, ashamed, embarrassed, etc.)

5 Signs Your Mind Desperately Needs a Reset 🔄

Ever noticed certain unmistakable signs that seem to shout, “Hey, your current way of thinking just isn’t cutting it”?

Recognizing these signs is crucial—they’re your mind’s way of signaling it’s time for a change.

While these signs can vary individually, I’ve noticed five common indicators among my clients.

After reading this post, I encourage you to pause and identify any unique signs you might be experiencing.

Being vs. Doing

That feeling that “you’re never quite done” it’s so heavy. It’s also stressful. I know this and yet, I spend so much of my time in “doing mode” that I forget to just be.

This year my word is; purpose. I’ve committed to living with purpose. Every action, from sending an email to meditating, is intentional. Journaling has become a morning ritual since January, enhancing my ability to be present and connect with myself.

Facing Anxiety Triggers

Recently, while enjoying a movie night with my husband and friends, I encountered a challenging moment. A particular scene unexpectedly triggered my anxiety.

Instinctively, I stood up and busied myself elsewhere, recognizing this as a classic avoidance tactic.

 As a therapist and coach, I’m well aware that dodging anxiety often amplifies it in the long run.

Determined to confront this head-on, I rejoined the group before the scene concluded. Sitting through the discomfort, I reminded myself of my safety, despite the physical signs of anxiety: tense muscles, a racing heart, clenched hands, and rapid breathing.

Recharge with ‘Snack-Size’ Breaks

Tired? I see you out there!

Did you know that yawning is often misunderstood as just a sign that your brain needs more oxygen? In fact, it’s a bit more complex and interesting than that.

Yawning does more than just fill our lungs; it stretches the jaw and enhances blood flow. This action can invigorate us, making us feel more awake and alert. It’s a natural, physiological response that helps in adjusting our brain’s temperature and maintaining our alertness.

So, the next time you catch yourself yawning during a meeting, don’t feel embarrassed. It’s just your body’s way of keeping your brain in top shape, not merely a quest for more oxygen.

Avoidance: How to Handle it.

Avoidance is a common way of dealing with fear and anxiety. We do it because we rather not feel the discomfort that certain situation give us, or because we do not know how to handle that discomfort.

While it is normal to avoid, it is not helpful in the long run. Here is why:

At a first glance, avoidance seems helpful because it make us feel immediately better. However, avoidance does not allow us the opportunity to disproof the limiting beliefs that we hold about that situation or person and we never get to gather evidence against our fear.