I cannot tell you how many times the conversations in my coaching groups are around becoming confident. As a life coach, sometimes people put me on a pedestal and think I don’t know what it’s like to not be confident. But the opposite is true. Most people who are in a position of coaching or helping or coaching people through something that they themselves have overcome. And to me this is true. 

I think that confidence is something that has been, especially my early early life, something that I’ve always learned to grow into and lean into. And just recently on Mother’s Day, I realised I still have work to do. I’ve made so much progress, but I’ve noticed that I continue to need to do some work. 

The work around growing to be confident is not what you think it is. It’s not about becoming powerful, and maybe even bitchy or mean. It’s about becoming incredibly aware and loving towards ourselves. 

This podcast episode will help you appreciate and respond to yourself. Tune in for my experiences and advice on growing into being confident!

What is confidence? 

Did you know that confidence is all about self-awareness? Every one of us is born with confidence. Some may be very natural about it while others are still discovering how to be confident. How do we build our confidence up?

By definition, confidence is a state of feeling certain about the truth or something. It’s a feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of one’s qualities.

I have pinpointed that behind every overthinker, there is somebody who’s lacking self-confidence. As a life coach, I will help you bring out your confidence and work peacefully with it. Hence, we eliminate the mental noise that’s buzzing around our minds. I have overcome my own mental noise by learning to grow with it and leaning into it. My personal experience with confidence is uncovering in-depth self-awareness.

Learning to be mindful

Recently, I have been given a generous gift with a compliment, and I did not know what to do about it! Walking around with a belief that we are not worthy of receiving, will build up mental drama. If we’re not mindful and aware, we will end up rejecting the moments when we have an opportunity to change our inner limiting beliefs.

To change this series of thoughts we should become incredibly aware of the limiting beliefs, hear out our inner conversations and dialogues that are happening in the background at all times. These kinds of noises deny you confidence.

How do we work on self-awareness?

Get in the habit of asking yourself, “how do I feel?” when you do have a strong emotion like anxiety or fear or anger. Also, stop and pause and ask yourself “what caused me to feel this way?”

The one-word tool – curiosity

Curiosity Is the number one tool for self-awareness. This will allow you to be aware of who you are and how to respond to your environment. Practice mindfulness, connect to your mind and body. Align with yourself.

Limiting beliefs

Most of us walk around life with limiting beliefs. These are inner voices that stop us from being confident. Most common limiting beliefs are ‘I am not enough’ ‘I am not worthy’, ‘If I’m not perfect, I’m not going to be loved by others’ 

To get into the core of that is so crucial. You can do this on your own, but I’ll tell you, it’s a lot easier to have somebody who knows how to get through limiting beliefs, like a coach. You need to get yourself to be very clear on where your limiting beliefs are stopping you from growing.

If you’re looking for a coach to help you with your limiting beliefs, feel free to reach out to me on  Instagram!