Burnout is real! It happens when we’re mentally, physically, and emotionally exhausted caused by excessive and prolonged stress. It can manifest as physical symptoms or the inability to cope with everyday challenges. So, how do we prevent burnout?
Maria Stoyadinova is a burnout prevention and self-care coach, working with women who identify as high achievers and/or perfectionists and who are used to being overly harsh and critical of themselves. And she is here today to talk to us about the importance of rest over grind.
In this episode, we’re going to dive into self care. And we’re going to take you to a deeper understanding of it. Maria will give us a glimpse on how you can give yourself a break, mentally, physically, in order to avoid burnout, and enjoy a more balanced restful life without guilt.
In this episode:
[03:44] Having gone through pressure and stress herself, led Maria to look for options that can give her a balanced lifestyle. That’s when she found coaching.
[05:15] Maria was skeptical at first, but soon fell in love with how coaching can change a person’s life. She decided to learn how to be a coach, in order to pay it forward and teach more women how to get outside the cycle of burnout.
[07:40] Burnout goes way back to the 60’s or 70’s when it was more applicable to the healthcare profession.
[10:23] Before experiencing burnout, Maria has always been a perfectionist. And at that time, she thought being a perfectionist was a good trait.
[15:50] Our imperfections make us human.
[18:21] The good thing about perfectionists is their work ethic and their persistence.
[21:01] Self-care is all about self development work, examining your beliefs, your feelings, learning how to process your feelings and learning to shift from unhelpful beliefs.
[22:51] Real self-care is about doing the internal work first before doing the external work.
[23:57] Avoidance is not the way out, it’s actually what makes it feel so heavy.
[28:15] Dig down to a specific situation and then dig through the thoughts behind it that’s causing the most pain.
[31:19] Download your thoughts into writing.
[31:49] Maria’s framework is looking at the external event that happened then differentiating it from the thought we might have about it.
[35:09] When you tend to catastrophize, it would help to go to the worst case scenario and figure out what you would do if the worst happened.
[36:28] There is a difference between what was being said and what you heard.
[41:48] Taking a break requires patience.
[43:36] The practice of mindfulness is all about coming back to the place in between. Not too much and not too little, it’s something in between.
About Maria Stoyadinova
Maria Stoyadinova is a burnout prevention and self-care coach, working with women who identify as high achievers and/or perfectionists and who are used to being overly harsh and critical of themselves. She helps her clients give themselves a break, both mentally and physically, in order to avoid burnout and enjoy a more balanced and restful life without guilt.
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