Do you worry about being judged?
I know in an ideal world, we would all love to answer with a confident; “nope, I don’t give a damn” but reality sits differently, doesn’t it?
In a way we have been conditioned to think about what others would say and think of us since we were young children. I still catch myself telling my son “don’t scream like that at the store, what would others think” and it’s like I’m repeating my own mother’s words to me.
There is nothing wrong with you if you are worried about how others judge you. NOT A THING. This fear is actually primitive. It was born with you and all other humans. It comes from our DNA of survival.
Intuitively every baby knows that if she is abandoned or rejected, that she might die. So when a baby is hungry or needs something, she cries with urgency and this triggers the caregivers attention.
How does this have anything to do with your fear of judgment?
That natural instinct never goes away. It’s part of our primal instinct. So, as grown adults, we need to inform the brain that we will no longer die should we be abandoned or rejected by someone.
When you are looking for validation and approval, you are fearing abandonment or rejection.
All you have to do is, remind yourself that the fear of judgment is normal, it’s part of being human. You can also remind yourself that as a grown human you don’t need to fear for your survival as you are perfectly capable of copying and handling your own well-being.
Lastly, you want to remind yourself that while being rejected by others might suck for a little bit, you are very capable of sitting in that discomfort and choosing to surround yourself with those who love you for who you are.
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